— If you keep attracting the same type of person or finding yourself in the same relationship patterns, you're not broken—you're just running on autopilot. —

I discovered this after my seven-year marriage ended. Determined to find love by working harder, I attracted exactly what I asked for—but one-sided. I found myself constantly adapting and compromising, watching the same exhausting dynamic repeat itself relationship after relationship.

The breakthrough came on the Argentine tango dance floor.

As I learned tango and other partner dances, I noticed my body responding to partners in ways beyond my conscious control—shrinking back from some, overcompensating with others, falling into familiar patterns that had nothing to do with actual dance steps. Social dance events became my research lab, and I became my own subject of experimentation.

What I discovered changed everything: the same unconscious patterns showing up in my dances were showing up in my relationships. The way I connected—or disconnected—on the dance floor perfectly mirrored how I operated in romantic partnerships.

I dove deep into attachment theory, child development, trauma, and somatics, learning how past wounds unconsciously drive our behavior and how we can rewire these ingrained patterns. And I did rewire them. The anxious adaptations stopped. The exhausting cycles ended. I learned to recognize my patterns in real-time and choose differently.

This journey naturally evolved from my background in leadership and executive coaching. The same emotional intelligence and behavioral patterns that determine professional success also govern our most intimate relationships. The dance floor gave me the missing piece—the embodied understanding of how healthy connection actually feels.

Now I help individuals—whether single or partnered—break free from relationship patterns that keep them stuck, using psychology, somatic awareness, and the wisdom of partner dance.

— Because the relationship you want isn't about finding the perfect person—it's about becoming the person who can create and sustain the love you deserve. —